Mr. North Wind

To reinforce your lessons on gentleness, ask your children to close their eyes and use their imaginations as your describe two contrasting weather situations. Here are some sample descriptions:

Think of the coldest winter day you can imagine. The wind is blowing hard, carrying sharp ice crystals and snowflakes that sting as they cut into your cheeks. Now think of a mild, spring day. The sun is shining. There is just a gentle breeze blowing, barely strong enough to lift your hair. It touches your face softly.

Questions for discussion
  • What does it feel like to be outside on a stormy winter day?
  • What does it feel like to be outside on a warm summer day?
  • How are people like harsh winter days?
  • How are people like warm spring days?
  • What kind of person would you like to have for a friend or family member?
  • What kind of person would you like to be?

Music to my ears

Play some music on the piano or stereo. Sing along, singing off-key and then singing in tune. (If you are gifted musically, you can play chords that are harmonic or discordant.)

To foster discussion, ask your children which singing they think sounded better. Follow up with the question, “If this music represented a family, which family would you rather be a part of?” Bickering or arguing sounds like discordant music – it grates on everyone’s nerves! Conversely, when everyone is choosing to live in peace, the “music” is beautiful.

Close by praying together, asking God to send His presence in the form of the Holy Spirit to fill your home and your hearts with peace.

Relevant Scripture

1 Peter 3:8-9 “Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.”

Galatians 5:25-26 “Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.”

Singing songs of peace

Almost any time is a good time to sing or listen to music. Music also helps children remember concepts. Here are some suggestions appropriate for your study on harmony:

  • “Fruit of the Spirit,” a song by Terry Butler, from the CD Fruit of the Spirit. Vineyard Music, 2002.
  • “I’ve Got Peace Like a River,” a song by author unknown (traditional). (Scriptural basis found in Isaiah 66:12)
  • “Let There be Peace on Earth,” a song by Sy Miller and Jill Jackson, from the piano and guitar songbook The Choirboys. Wise Publications, 2005.
  • “Peace,” a song by Wayne Zeitner, from the CD Music Machine: The Fruit of the Spirit. Alpha Omega Publications, Bridgestone Multimedia, 2002.
  • “Peace Like a River,” a song by Charles Davis and C.D. Davis.

Certificate of authenticity

Visit a jewellery store with your children. Compare both real and artificial pearls, diamonds, gold and/or silver.

Explain that sometimes it is not obvious – even to an expert – if precious metals and stones are authentic (real), or merely imitations of the real thing (fake). Tell your children that when you buy the real thing, the jeweller gives you a “certificate of authenticity” to prove the article is genuine. (If you request it, the store’s assistant may be willing to show you a certificate of authenticity.)

Questions for discussion

Review these questions to further the discussion on real (God-made) versus synthetic (man-made) jewels and metals:

  • Sometimes people cannot tell the difference between real and artificial jewellery. Who always knows the difference? (Psalm 90:8, Ecclesiastes 12:14)
  • When we use our mouths to speak truth or falsehood we can sometimes fool people, but who can we never fool? (Psalm 139:4)
  • Can we say the same thing about your words that God says about His own words? (Isaiah 45:19)
Relevant Scripture

Psalm 90:8 “You have set our iniquities before You, our secret sins in the light of Your presence.”

Psalm 139:4 “Before a word is on my tongue, You know it completely, O Lord.”

Ecclesiastes 12:14 “For God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil.”

Isaiah 45:19 “…I, the Lord, speak the truth; I declare what is right.”

Real versus make believe exercise

Whenever you read your children a story, ask them if it was “real” or “make believe.” Children can be very perceptive, but it is good to give them an opportunity to confirm their judgement. While driving, tell your children stories and have them practice discerning whether the stories are factual or fictional.

An honest kid

Share with your children this true story about a seven-year-old boy named Tanner Munsey. Tanner’s reputation for being honest earned him a mention in the “Scorecard” column in the July 10, 1989, issue of Sports Illustrated magazine.

During a T-ball game in Wellington, Florida, Tanner attempted to tag a player leaving first base. When the umpire called the player out, Tanner immediately informed the umpire that he hadn’t managed to tag the runner.

Two weeks later, Tanner encountered the same umpire in another T-ball game. This time, Tanner was playing short-stop and tagged a runner as they approached third base. When the umpire called the player safe, Tanner didn’t say a word, but the umpire noticed his surprise at the call.

“Did you tag the runner?” she asked Tanner. When Tanner affirmed that he had, the umpire changed her decision and called the player out. When the coaches and other parents protested, the umpire stood by her decision, informing them that she had learned to trust Tanner, because of his honesty.

Read the original article.

Relevant Scripture

Proverbs 20:11 “Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right.”

Complimenting God

The goal of this “complimenting God” exercise is to help your children practice honouring God when they are given a compliment. Here are some example responses you can practice over dinner or while travelling in a vehicle. Also take time to read your choice of the Bible verses listed below and review the discussion questions.

  • “Susie, you are a great soccer player.”
    “Thank you. God gave me a talent for playing the game.”
  • “Jeff, you sure are a bright boy.”
    “Thanks. I give God the honour. He is the one who made me.”
  • “What a great runner you are, Jen!”
    “Thank you. God gave me quick feet.”
  • “You swim so well, Tyler!”
    “Thank you. God made me kind of like a fish.”
  • “Andrew, what an amazing drawing you have done!”
    “Thank you. God gave me the gift of being creative. I’m glad He made me this way.”
  • “You are such a pretty girl, Isabelle!”
    “Thank you. God is the one who made me this way.”
    Or, “Thank you. I like to think of myself as one of God’s many neat creations.”
  • “You play the piano so well, James!”
    “I practice a lot, but it is God who gave me a natural talent for music.”
Questions for discussion
  • What gifts and talents do you have that others compliment you on?
  • Who made you and gives you talents and abilities?
  • Who placed you in the position of honour over the animals on the earth?
  • If you are going to boast, what should you boast about? (Jeremiah 9:23-24)
Key concepts

When we forget who God is and who we are, it is easy to become proud. God made us and deserves thanks and praise for all that we are and all that we have (Isaiah 66:2). He is the Creator of the whole earth, and all that is in it, including us. God is the one who placed people in the position of honour over the animals on the earth (Psalm 8:6).

Any honour we receive from others should be reflected back to God. He made us! When someone compliments us, pride will tempt us to say or think, “Yeah, I’m great!” A humble person, however, will remember that God deserves the honour for making him/her as He did.

Relevant Scripture

Deuteronomy 8:17-18 “You may say to yourself, ‘My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.’ But remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms His covenant, which He swore to your forefathers, as it is today.”

Psalm 8:3-9 “When I consider Your heavens, the work of Your fingers, the moon and the stars, which You have set in place, what is man that You are mindful of him, the son of man that You care for him? You have made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor. You made him ruler over the works of Your hands; You put everything under his feet: all flocks and herds, and the beasts of the field, the birds of the air, and the fish of the sea, all that swim the paths of the seas. Lord, our Lord, how majestic is Your name in all the earth!”

Isaiah 66:1-2 “This is what the Lord says: ‘Heaven is My throne, and the earth is My footstool. Where is the house you will build for Me? Where will My resting place be? Has not My hand made all these things, and so they came into being?’ declares the Lord. ‘This is the one who I esteem: he who is humble and contrite in spirit, and trembles at My Word.”

Jeremiah 9:23-24 “This is what the Lord says: ‘Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man boast of his strength or the rich man boast of his riches, but let him who boasts boast about this: that he understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,’ declares the Lord.”

Spending time in God’s presence

The best way to stay humble is to spend time in the presence of someone greater. During the time you are studying humility, take time during your day to read and talk about who God is and how truly wonderful He is.

Ideas for keeping God and His greatness at the forefront of your minds include printing out the Bible passages from below and:

  • posting them around the house
  • taking them on a walk with you
  • placing them in your vehicle (to read at red lights).

Ask your children to remind you to read a verse at each red light, or after passing landmarks on your walk, or on the hour (in your home). This will help you remember, and also increase your children’s level of interest and participation. As you review the verses, explain to your children that by focusing on God and how amazing and holy He is, it reminds us that we are not as “perfect” as we sometimes think we are.

Optional: To supplement this lesson, arrange for your child to spend time with someone who has well-developed skills in an area your child also excels in. For example, if there is a sport or a musical instrument your child is proficient at, have them observe a “master” of the instrument or sport they play. This can be done in person or via media.

Relevant Scripture

Psalm 145:17-21 “The Lord is righteous in all His ways and loving toward all He has made. The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth. He fulfills the desires of those who fear Him; He hears their cry and saves them. The Lord watches over all who love Him, but all the wicked He will destroy. My mouth will speak in praise of the Lord. Let every creature praise His holy name for ever and ever.”

Isaiah 40:25-26 “ ‘To whom will you compare Me? Or who is My equal?’ says the Holy One. Lift your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one and calls them each by name. Because of His great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing.”

Isaiah 55:8-15 “ ‘For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways,’ declares the Lord. ‘As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.”

Isaiah 57:15 “For this is what the high and exalted One says – He who lives forever, whose name is holy: ‘I live in a high and holy place, but also with him who is contrite and lowly in spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly and to revive the heart of the contrite.”

Jeremiah 10:6-7 “No one is like You, O Lord; You are great, and Your name is mighty in power. Who should not revereYou, O King of the nations? This is Your due. Among all the wise men of the nations and in all their kingdoms, there is no one like You.”

Matthew 23:12 “For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”

1 Corinthians 1:25 “For the foolishness of God is wiser than man’s wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than man’s strength.”

Power struggle

To play the game Power Struggle, one person begins by thinking of a small and insignificant animal, like a flea or an ant. The name of this creature is then inserted into the following rhyme:

Person one:
There once was a flea who spoke right out loud,
“I’m so big! I’m so big! I’m as big as that cloud!”

Others respond:
Hey, little buddy,” said God with a wink,
“You’re really not quite as big as you think!
I hate to disappoint you, but I have a strong hunch,
There are quite a few others who could eat you for lunch!”

After everyone else replies with God’s lines, the next person thinks up an animal slightly larger than the previous one. For example, the flea could be followed by a spider. The game continues until the creatures named are as large as dinosaurs.

To add complexity and fun, have each person point to a cloud as they name their animal. The speaker may also choose to speak in a voice that the animal in question might use.

When the game is finished, take a minute to point out that God is bigger and more powerful than all of the creatures named. You can supplement your discussion with any of the verses below. It’s fascinating to read the things God says in the Bible!

Relevant Scripture

Introduction | Job 38:1-7 “Then the Lord answered Job out of the storm. He said: ‘Who is this that darkens My counsel with words without knowledge? Brace yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer Me. Where were you when I laid the earth’s foundation? Tell Me, if you understand. Who marked off its dimensions? Surely you know! Who stretched a measuring line across it? On what were its footings set, or who laid its cornerstone – while the morning stars sang together and all the angels shouted for joy?”

Lions | Job 38:39-40 “Do you hunt the prey for the lioness and satisfy the hunger of the lions when they crouch in their dens or lie in wait in a thicket?”

Wild donkeys | Job 39:5-8 “Who let the wild donkey go free? Who untied his ropes? I gave him the wasteland as his home, the salt flats as his habitat. He laughs at the commotion in the town; he does not hear a driver’s shout. He ranges the hills for his pasture and searches for any green thing.”

Ostriches | Job 39:13-18 “The wings of the ostrich flap joyfully, but they cannot compare with the pinions and feathers of the stork. She lays her eggs on the ground and lets them warm in the sand, unmindful that a foot may crush them, that some wild animal may trample them. She treats her young harshly, as if they were not hers; she cares not that her labor was in vain, for God did not endow her with wisdom or give her a share of good sense. Yet when she spreads her feathers to run, she laughs at horse and rider.”

Horses | Job 39:19-25 “Do you give the horse his strength or clothe his neck with a flowing mane? Do you make him leap like a locust, striking terror with his proud snorting? He paws fiercely, rejoicing in his strength, and charges into the fray. He laughs at fear, afraid of nothing; he does not shy away from the sword. The quiver rattles against his side, along with the flashing spear and lance. In frenzied excitement he eats up the ground; he cannot stand still when the trumpet sounds. At the blast of the trumpet he snorts, ‘Aha!’ He catches the scent of battle from afar, the shout of commanders and the battle cry.”

Hawks | Job 39:26-30 “Does the hawk take flight by your wisdom and spread his wings toward the south? Does the eagle soar at your command and build his nest on high? He dwells on a cliff and stays there at night; a rocky crag is his stronghold. From there he seeks out his food; his eyes detect it from afar. His young ones feast on blood, and where the slain are, there he is.”

Behemoths | Job 40:15-24 “Look at the Behemoth, which I made along with you and which feeds on grass like an ox. What strength he has in his loins, what power in the muscles of his belly! His tail sways like a cedar; the sinews of his thighs are close-knit. His bones are tubes of bronze, his limbs like rods of iron. He ranks first among the works of God, yet his Maker can approach him with His sword. The hills bring him their produce, and all the wild animals play nearby. Under the lotus plants he lies, hidden among the reeds in the marsh. The lotuses conceal him in their shadow; the poplars by the stream surround him. When the river rages, he is not alarmed; he is secure, though the Jordan should surge against his mouth. Can anyone capture him by the eyes, or trap him and pierce his nose?”

Leviathan | Job 41:1-11 “Can you pull in the leviathan with a fishhook or tie down his tongue with a rope? Can you put a cord through his nose or pierce his jaw with a hook? Will he keep begging you for mercy? Will he speak to you with gentle words? Will he make an agreement with you for you to take him as your slave for life? Can you make a pet of him like a bird or put him on a leash for your girls? Will traders barter for him? Will they divide him up among the merchants? Can you fill his hide with harpoons or his head with fishing spears? If you lay a hand on him, you will remember the struggle and never do it again! Any hope of subduing him is false; the mere sight of him is overpowering. No one is fierce enough to rouse him. Who then is able to stand against Me? Who has a claim against Me that I must pay? Everything under heaven belongs to Me.” For more, read verses 12-34 as well.

Every knee shall bow

During your study on humility, make it a practice to kneel when you pray to physically demonstrate humility before God. You may wish to open your prayer saying, “Dear King Jesus…”

To introduce the concept of kneeling before royalty, you can read one of your children’s favourite stories about princes, princesses, kings or queens. You can also read through your choice of the verses listed below that refer to the long-standing tradition of kneeling to show respect to God. In the New Testament verses it is interesting to note that people who didn’t even know that Jesus was God still knelt down in front of Him.

Relevant Scripture

2 Chronicles 7:3 “When all the Israelites saw the fire coming down and the glory of the Lord above the temple, they knelt on the pavement with their faces to the ground, and they worshiped and gave thanks to the Lord, saying, ‘He is good; His love endures forever.’ ”

Matthew 2:10-11 “When they saw the star, they were overjoyed. On coming to the house, they saw the child with His mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped Him. Then they opened their treasures and presented Him with gifts of gold and of incense and of myrrh.”

Matthew 8:2 “A man with leprosy came and knelt before Him and said, ‘Lord, if You are willing, You can make me clean.”

Matthew 9:18 “While He was saying this, a ruler came and knelt before Him and said, ‘My daughter has just died. But come and put Your hand on her, and she will live.’ ”

Matthew 23:12 “For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”

Psalm 22:27-28 “All the ends of the earth will remember and turn to the Lord, and all the families of the nations will bow down before Him, for dominion belongs to the Lord and He rules over the nations.”

Philippians 2:9-11 “Therefore God exalted Him to the highest place and gave Him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”