Here are some suggestions to help you develop a spirit of collaboration in your children.
James 3:13-18: “
Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.”
James 4:7 “
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
If one of your children refuses to submit to authority or cooperate, liken this to refusing to yield the right-of-way in traffic. Explain that if drivers refused to follow the rules of the road, the end result would be chaos. So it is in our homes – if kids disobey their parents, then their homes will lack harmony and will instead be full of chaos. God’s plan is for our homes to be peaceful.
As a discipline measure, assign your child a task that involves sorting or organizing, or some form of restoring order. You’ll likely need to work alongside your child. Take advantage of the time you spend together to further discuss the importance of cooperation. Here are a few ideas:
When the job is completed, pray with your child, basing your prayer on James 3:17-18: “
But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” Ask God to give your child wisdom from heaven in the form of a submissive and obedient heart that desires to spread peace rather than chaos.