Tone and expression matter

Any time, Drive time

Repeat phrases to your kids and have them identify both harsh and gentle tones.

Discussion point: Speak to others in the same gentle way that you like to be spoken to.

This game works well while driving in the car. Speak a phrase and have your kids tell you if your tone is harsh or gentle. For example, say “Please stop doing that,” in a variety of ways. Let your kids give you feedback on whether or not they would like to be spoken to that way.

Let the game lead into a discussion about tone of voice and how people are more willing to listen when we speak gently.

Questions for discussion

Use the following questions to help your children think about they should aim to speak to others:

  • How would you like me to ask you to put away your toys?
  • How should a parent tell a child that it is time to go home when the child is having fun visiting at a friend’s house?
  • What should you say when you want a treat and I don’t give you one?
Relevant Scripture

Proverbs 16:24 “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”

Proverbs 16:21 “The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.”