Self-control scenarios

Any time, Drive time

Discuss five scenarios where exercising self-control may be difficult.

Discussion point: Jesus understands what it’s like to be tempted; the Holy Spirit helps us grow in self-control.

You can play the self-control game when you are driving in the car or as a family activity at home. Take turns giving examples of when self-control is needed. (See examples below). After each example, ask the questions for discussion.

  • Someone has just taken your favourite toy from you.
  • You have had one piece of cake and your stomach feels full. Someone offers you another piece.
  • You are alone in the kitchen and see an open bag of chocolate chips on the counter where you can reach it. No one will notice if you take a few.
  • Someone has just called you a mean name that hurt your feelings – now they are laughing at you.
  • You just received some discipline from one of your parents, now your brother or sister is smiling.
Questions for discussion
  • Would you need to use self-control in this situation?
  • Would it be easy or hard to be self-controlled in this situation?
  • If you would have a hard time using self-control, how could you make it easier?
Key concepts

You want your children to understand that when we are full of the Holy Spirit, it is easier to use self-control. It is one of the fruits of the Spirit. Also remind your children that they will never be tempted beyond what God will help them handle (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Close by praying and thanking God that He understands what it is like to be tempted and that He will never let us be tempted beyond that which we can handle. For further insight, read and discuss the “Jesus fights temptation” story in the Bible stories section of this lesson.

Relevant Scripture

1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.”